Social Media A World Of Fantasies

Life is about to live enjoy cherish every moment given to us by nature but in today’s globalize world we make it difficult for us to live by creating some pathetic rules and regulations and in one of them is must to follow every social media platform with the set rules of certain community.

Do all your friends live violently exciting lives showered with parties, clubs and beautiful clothes? Do they always look perfect? Are they always happy? Not long ago, a friend of mine deleted her Instagram account. I couldn’t understand why one would ever do such a thing, so I asked and her response caught me off-guard. She deleted her Instagram because she felt herself becoming depressed by it. The pressure of taking the right picture, with the right filter, wearing the right outfit, at the right place, with the right people was too much pressure. We are conditioned to project only our best, although unrealistic, identities on our social media profiles as a modern way of virtually keeping up with the Joneses. Regardless of whether you realize it, you’re spending a great deal of time and effort on the creation of your digital identity. The casting of this alternate self depends heavily on how others are projecting themselves in these arenas as well. Then what about to your ‘real’ self.

Social media puts an interesting lens on the creation of the self, and how this structure affects our thinking. The ideal self is the self we aspire to be. My ideal self would be a 25-year-old successful freelance writer who lives in a very clean house and who always takes the time to put on makeup before she leaves the house.

One’s self-image is the person we actually are based on the actions, behaviors, and habits now controlled. My self-image would be of a 25-year-old freelance writer just starting her business in a house that’s mostly clean most of the time and who forces herself not to wear pajamas everywhere.

According to Carl Rogers’s theory of personality, every human has the basic instinct to improve herself and realize her full potential

Social media is not only extremely general; it is an activity in which you are expected to participate. Not all social media is Facebook and Instagram. Think LinkedIn, the new virtual business profile quickly replacing the traditional printed resume. For example for a freelance writer, very often see job postings that insist you have a strong ‘social media presence.’

I have this love/hate relationship with social media. On the one hand, social media creates a connection between people, content, and businesses that we really didn’t have a decade ago. But like all good things, there’s a dark side.

The dark side of social media is the perception of perfection. We are all guilty of it, even those of us who don’t have shame in posting photos of toddlers behaving badly. From fabulous foods to glamorous vacations; Instagram, Facebook and Twitter are filled with them. But the truth of the matter is, it’s only a portion of the story. The best part, yes but it’s not all great all the time.

What can we learn from this? Take social media for what it’s worth. Understand that behind the perfection are flaws. I wish everyone would post a little more about the bumps in the road. We see all the wonderful moments, but in reality it’s only a bit of truth. Behind the fabulous vacation were the hours of packing, fighting with the kids, delayed plane rides, rude locals, and crappy hotel rooms. Those are the in-between moments that we aren’t posting.

At people aged 16 to 24 this age group is vulnerable when it comes to mental health problems. And social media can cause such problems, or make them much worse. “On Facebook and Instagram, everything looks perfect,” According to research, some 75% of mental health problems in adults begin before the age of 25, Social media adding its role in this regard.

For obvious reasons, people do not advertise their negative traits on their social profiles, nor do they pose unflattering pictures. Because of this strict control of the way we are viewed, we are often fooled into believing other people’s lives are much better than our own. What is essential to remember is they too wear masks, the way I do, the way everyone does.

Here the suggestion includes talking in person to friends and family about how you’re feeling about something and taking part in social activities outside the house, like sport. Do spend time somewhere tranquil to get away from noise and stress, like a forest or a library. Try turning off your phone while you’re at it, or even leaving it at home for a change.

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  1. Nida says

    Yes, it’s a major concern of today’s world.

  2. Khawar 743 says

    I will just say that ” excess of every thing is not good”.
    Leaving is not an option. It is all about your mind strength if you are easy to be manipulated then any thing can be destructive for your personality.
    There was a girl. She wrote that, due to excessive use of social media she was losing her skills so she sold her smart phone. Bought a keypad phone and from rest of the money she bought books to read. And now on she will use her laptop for social media. By doing this she spend less time on social media and more time on reading and other sttuf.

  3. Muhammad Raheem says

    I deactivated my Facebook account and one of my class fellow asked me did you broke up with someone. That’s how we see social media.

  4. Abdullah Khalid says

    While reading this, most of the time I was thinking that I am listening to what I used to tell myself about using the Social Media. I think we all, deep down somewhere, want this feeling of seeing other people being so perfect while you’re dealing with imperfections to go away.

  5. Abubakar Asghar Khan (韩步遥) says

    Another amazing content writing by the author. This person is surely be the star in future, In Sha Allah

  6. Sadaf says

    Thanks gyss for your valuable comments

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