When We Get Demotivated

May be it is fear, the challenge and one of many other possible reasons, we all can become demotivated. In simple words I can say that we all have off days. Staying energized and working hard every single day is not possible. In fact, it is unreasonable. The mind and body need time to response.

So firstly, we are going to discuss the main causes of demotivation and then we will come to its solution

  1. Fear

One of the main cause of demotivation is the fear, it can be any kind of fear, the fear of failure, fear of losing something important. Fear actually slow down our speed of achieving the goals we set already, fear actually is that part of you which want to keep you safe.

  1. Setting the wrong goals

We are all surrounded with so many messages that feed in our Social life and we are keen to impress others, the society. When you feel demotivated, it is because you are setting goals based purely on what your Social Self wants and this is pulling you away from the direction your Essential Self wants you to take. Your Essential Self uses demotivation to slow you down and try to disinterest you from the toxic goals you have set.

  1. Lack of clarity about what you want

When you have not consciously and clearly articulated what you want, the picture of your future will be vague. We like what’s familiar and so we resist what is unfamiliar and vague and we stay with and re-create what’s familiar to us instead. If you are not clear about what you want to create, then it makes sense that you will lack motivation to act because you’d rather stay with your current familiar reality.

  1. Values conflict

Your values are what is very important to you in life. If you have a values conflict it means that there are two or more values that are important to you but you feel that you cannot satisfy all of those values in a particular situation. This causes you to feel conflicted and pulled in different directions as you try to find ways to get what is important to you. You might have brief spurts of motivation to work on something and then lose motivation and start working on something else or your motivation might dry up altogether because the energy of dealing with internal conflict quickly tires you out and saps your motivation.

  1. Lack of autonomy

We thrive on autonomy. We all have a decision-making center in our brains and this part of us needs to be exercised. Studies have found that this decision-making center in the brain is under-developed in people who have depression and that, by practicing using this part of the brain and making decisions, depression often clears.

  1. Lack of challenge

When it comes to dealing with challenges, there’s a sweet spot. Too great a challenge and the fear becomes too great and saps our motivation, and if the challenge is too small, we quickly get bored and struggle to stay motivated. We are designed to be living, growing creatures and we need constant challenge and opportunities to master new skills. Without challenge, our Essential Self steps in and demotivates us as a way of telling us that we have departed from the path that is right for us.

  1. Grief

At the beginning of any change, we go through a phase of wondering if we should or could hang onto the way things were and grieving what we could be losing if we make significant changes. Confusion, self-doubt, mistrust of the world around us and feeling lost are common symptoms and the bigger the change, the more powerful these symptoms. Sometimes we even go through a bit of depression and social withdrawal. This is called as “Death and Rebirth” phase of change. With all the grieving and fearing and feeling lost that goes on in this phase, it’s normal for your motivation to dry up.

  1. Loneliness

This is especially important one for those of us who work alone from home. You know those days when you feel a bit cabin-feverish, you just do not feel like working and you’d rather be out having a drink with a friend or playing some game? Well perhaps it is because we are designed to be social creatures and sometimes your Essential Self is just longing for some connection with other people and so it steps in and hi-jacks your work motivation so that you’ll take a break from work and go and spend some time with other people and give your Essential Self what it needs.

  1. Burnt out

If you’re feeling tired all the time, have lost your energy for socializing, and the idea of taking a snooze sounds more compelling than the stuff you’re usually interested in, then you’ve probably pushed yourself too long and hard and you may be burned out.

  1. Not knowing that, what to do next

Your end-goal might be nice and clear, but if you haven’t taken time to chunk your end-goal down into smaller goals, you’ll get stuck, confused and demotivated when it’s time to take action. Some projects are small and familiar enough that they don’t need a plan, but if you’re often worrying that you don’t know what to do next and you don’t have a clear plan, then this might be the source of your demotivation.

How to fix the Demotivation Problem

How to be Motivated Again

Now I will tell you that what the role of motivation is in our personal and social life. A motivated person can do anything. Motivation is central to the creativity, productivity and happiness. Motivation is what forces and causes us to act, and when we act, we go through momentum, movement, growth and change, we feel involved, masterful and significant, we feel powerful through experiencing how we can change the world, and we create more of what we love in our lives. And all of this gives our lives purpose and happiness.

Goal-setting, planning, organizing and accountability structures are often touted as the big solution to demotivation and the silver bullet that will get you creative and productive again, but notice that it’s only a useful strategy for dealing with some types of demotivation. With many other types of demotivation, goal-setting, planning, organizing and accountability structures will only make your demotivation problem worse.

Up to you

Have you been able to pin-point the types of demotivation that you tend to struggle with most?

Have you been stuck in demotivation right now?

What do you need and which motivation strategy is going to give you what you need right now?

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  1. Noor Ai says

    Its great i agreed with Mr.Raheel
    I personally thanks for such article he share with us
    I Pray Him,God Blessed him……Ameen.
    I Suggestion “Keep it up” .

    1. Raheel Ray says

      Thanks Dear…

  2. Aena Khan says

    Such an amazing topic you got to write…
    Thank You!

    1. Raheel Ray says

      Thanks for your appreciation…
      Really need it

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