Islam is a beautiful religion but unfortunately some people use it for their own sake or interest and misinterpret it in many cases.
No religion other than Islam gives the concept of equality. Just because you’re Muslim, doesn’t mean you have to be conservative. Be more and more open minded.
Many problems that Muslims face these days are because they are so worked up in their traditional values. Most of these traditional values have nothing to do with Islam. Islam is a religion that gives the faithful the permission to question and doubt almost anything. Don’t be scared to ask questions when you don’t understand something. Try to read the Quran yourself or its translation to get a better sense of what it is saying. If you don’t understand something, ask.
Keep an open mind about other religions and ideas. There will be a lot of times when you’ll get to make a decision according to your past experiences and personal judgment, but you should consult with religious scholars if it’s something that has to do with your religion. Many conservative Muslims who still follow their traditional values believe that women are below men. In fact, Islam gives more power to women than men. Try to bear in mind that, even though your forefathers have always thought this way, doesn’t mean they were correct.
Just because many Muslim families still do arranged-marriages (which is completely against what Islam teaches), doesn’t mean you have to follow their footsteps. Although you are still restricted to just talking to the girl, you can just talk to the girl with a third person present. Respect your parents. They might be little hard to deal with, but be patient and they will come around.
Remember that Quran has asked us to follow some permanent moral values like truthfulness or humbleness etc. These moral values are important for a good life. They have to be followed. Apart from them we can live our life according to our surroundings, inclinations and preferences. But we must make sure that they do not transgress the limits set by Allah in the Quran. God (or Allah in Arabic) created us to worship Him but that doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy the “fruits of the world”. Remember, Halal circle is enough for the believers.
Remember in this modern era, things are set in a neutral view. You shouldn’t be discouraged if you find opposite beliefs, Respecting other people’s religion, and beliefs is essential.
Some people who even do not know the real meaning of Islam and true spirit of this religion, they themselves decide the religious boundaries, which they think make them ‘Momin/Mujahid’. They even misinterpret Quran’s verses and Ahadiths.
I humbly request them please first try to become good human rather than a fake Muslim.