Why this generation is losing the ability to be in love? Our generation will be looked like as the generation that gave up on love-based relationships.
We belong to a generation that doesn’t know what is the true essence of love. This is really bad and sad. Most people don’t understand what love is, they just had a poor interpretation of it.
The most common trend amongst our generation is our need for instant gratification. We grew up in a culture that allows us instant access to anything. If we want food, we have it delivered with the click of a few buttons. If we are bored, we have endless distractions in the form of phone apps. If we need directions or a question answered, it only takes us a couple of seconds. Such convenience is entirely a modern-day perk previous generations never experienced anything even close to it. Love isn’t meant to be experienced in an instant but in a lifetime.
We’ve built a culture driven by drugs and drinks, Drugs and alcohol are the most common form of self-medication. When we feel sad or unhappy, we go out for drinks. When we’re stressed or unable to handle our lives, we may turn to more intense substances. Of course, not everyone drinks alcohol and/or does drugs, but it is a trend among our generation.
We are social people. We believe more in meeting people than getting to know them. We’re greedy. We want to have everything. We get into relationships and step out the moment we find someone better. Technology has brought us closer, so close that it’s impossible to breathe. Our physical presence has been replaced by texts, voice messages, snapchats and video calls. We don’t feel the need to spend time together anymore. We have too much of each other already. There’s nothing left to talk about
We have become more egocentric, every individual in the world is egocentric, we all think about our needs and ourselves first. Whether this is good or bad doesn’t really matter. When we focus on ourselves then the needs of the others in our community gets overlooked. When this happens in a relationship, it all begins to fall apart.
We like to have things our way, always. And what the relationship often needs is for you to compromise, as long as you accept that compromises need to be made. Once we no longer accept that as a necessity, we will lose the ability to create a loving relationship.
We’re a scared generation – scared to fall in love, scared to commit, scared to get hurt, and scared to get our hearts broken. We don’t allow anyone in, nor do we step out and love anyone unconditionally. We suddenly cannot handle it. We don’t want to be exposed. We don’t want to bare our soul to anyone. We’re too guarded. We don’t even value relationships anymore. We let go of the most wonderful people for the ‘other fishes in the sea.’ We don’t consider them sacred anymore.
Most of us are really bad at loving. Love is confusing, changing over time and changing with each new partner we let into our lives. Love is so incredibly complex that most people simply haven’t been able to get a grasp of it. It’s nothing to be ashamed of, but it is a reason to worry. The issue is if we don’t come to understand love well, its purpose, its boundaries, and its shortcomings, we will never be happy.
The real question is: Are we getting better or worse at loving? That’s a question I’m not able to answer.