The most condemnable thing, which should be eschewed by man, is meddling and infusing his own opinion into the matters and lives of other, forcibly. Grasping the quintessence of the phrase ‘meddling into the affairs of others’ seems esoteric, maybe. Here this implies the habit of pointing out mistakes when that is not even necessary, and very strong chances are that the things which are being taken as mistakes, or are failing to get a nod of approval, are merely mistakes confined to the head of one particular observer or group. It happens more often than not that the matter of choice is viewed as an attack on the ideology of a person or group, if it doesn’t match or collaborate with it. People have, over time, adopted a trait: to observe more and reflect less. When you observe for the sake of self-improvement, or to gain something which is for your own benefit, no harm is being done – but when you are observing just to get hold of something which on appropriate time you can use against the person whom you were observing, that may have deleterious effects.
In the human race, a paragon may exist as an exception, somewhere, but to speak generally, we may assume that no one is perfect. This is also an established universal truth and a cliché. Now, there exists a group of people out there, whose capacity to stay positive, optimistic and more focused on themselves has been reduced to penury. The reason for this ruination of conscience can conveniently be blamed on lack of understanding of the notion of morality. These people are ready at any time, or whenever the opportunities arise, to upbraid someone who is doing something aberrant and contrary to the view of former. In this world there are many codes of morality and living, which vary from country to country and region to region – people adopt them according to their own satisfaction and comfort. To brand something less correct than the path you have opted for yourself is an example of extreme behaviour or narcissism.
To step out of this dark chasm, in which our conscious has abseiled down a step at a time until reached the flat surface below, Shams of Tabriz has said a very germane adage to help.
He says: ‘The summary of the advice of all prophets is this; find yourself a mirror.’
This adage which is quite, or wholly, felicitous carries two messages at the same time.
First, stop noticing the sins which are being committed by the people around you, because in the end you won’t be asked to answer for them or you won’t be held accountable for them.Instead, pay more heed to your own conduct and the vile monsters you have lodged inside you. Hold that mirror in both your hands and carefully notice how you look. Are you free of sin? Try to look and then gauge your own mistakes and a way which may rectify them gradually. Correct yourself and make sure that whenever you look into the mirror, the twin lookalike of you gawking back from the inside looks peaceful and proud.
Secondly, if in that mirror you find yourself sin-free, and an evident sign of relaxation can be detected on your face, then you may point out other people who in this case would be inferior to your perfect self – but the condition is ‘if’. Most certainly it is not going to happen and in the end, you will be smitten with the ratio between assessed mistakes and deviation from morals of others – you are even more drowned in this mire.
To conclude, self-learning and realisation are very important to be a good human being, who is interested in reforming the whole world, but most of the time would be reluctant to start from himself and his own conduct. Flaws should attract your attention, but those should be your own. Condemning others is easy but to condemn your being is a real trial to prove actually how truthful and sober you are.
As put by the John Calvin Coolidge Jr, the thirtieth President of the United States (1923–1929): ‘If we judge ourselves only by our aspirations and everyone else only their conduct we shall soon reach a very false conclusion.’